How To Cope With Being a Jealous Partner

 Jealousy is a natural emotion that we all experience from time to time. But when it becomes a chronic feeling in a relationship, it can create a lot of tension and problems. If you're in a relationship with someone who makes you feel jealous, there are some things you can do to help yourself cope with your jealousy.

Talk to your partner about what is triggering your jealousy. Oftentimes, jealousy is based on insecurity or fear. If your partner can help you feel more secure in the relationship, your jealousy will likely lessen.

Having a partner encourages you to express your jealousy in a healthy way is a good thing. This means you should communicate with them about your feelings instead of letting them fester.

Find ways to feel more secure in the relationship. If your partner is doing everything they can to reassure you but the insecurity remains, you may need to look within for answers. What are your fears about the relationship? What are your fears about the other person? Maybe there is something you need to clarify about your relationship (like whether you’re monogamous or not) or maybe there is something you need to work on in order to feel more secure (like improving communication or maybe even your self-esteem). 
 
Don’t put things onto your partner that belong to you. In other words, if you have issues or traits that trigger your jealousy, try working on them yourself instead of expecting your partner to change. For example, if you’re insecure around other women, instead of constantly monitoring your partner’s female friends, perhaps you should discuss this with him and come up with some guidelines about how you two will interact with others.

If you can’t figure out what is triggering your jealousy or why you feel the way you do, you may want to consider seeing a therapist individually or as a couple.
Be grateful for the good things in your relationship. Take time each day to think about and appreciate the good things in your relationship. This can help neutralize your negative feelings and help you stay positive. Of course, this takes a bit of work, but it can be beneficial to practice gratitude even if you’re feeling jealous or insecure.
Remind yourself that your partner loves you. Sometimes all it takes is a little reminder to counteract your jealous feelings. Keep notes or reminders on your phone or computer to look at when you’re feeling jealous or insecure.
Remember that there is only so much one person can give. No matter how much time and energy your partner puts into the relationship, there will always be limits. It’s important to respect those limits even if  you feel you’re getting less than your partner. If you constantly demand more from your partner, you’ll never get past your jealousy.
Don’t use jealousy to control your partner. Sometimes people will try to control their partner by insisting on extra explanations, vetting their friends, or even checking their phone messages or Facebook accounts. While this may seem like a good way to ensure your safety and security, it’s really about power and control. Instead, try to work on feeling secure enough to allow your partner the freedom to have other relationships.
 Join online support groups. Being a jealous partner isn’t always easy, and it can be hard to find people you can talk to about your situation. Online support groups for partners may be able to help you feel less alone and confront your fears.
Talk to your partner about your feelings. It’s important to communicate your feelings with your partner. Avoid hiding your feelings or jumping to conclusions. Talk about what you’re feeling and why. You may find that by talking about your insecurities, you’ll be able to understand them better and resolve them.
Be supportive of your partner. Being a supportive partner yourself is one of the best ways to make your partner want to stay with you. Showing interest in and appreciation for your partner is always a good idea, as is giving them the emotional space they need and respecting their decisions.